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Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous

Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous (S.L.A.A.) is a Twelve Step, Twelve Tradition-oriented fellowship based on the model pioneered by Alcoholics Anonymous.

One of the resources we draw on is our willingness to stop acting out in our own personal bottom line addictive behavior on a daily basis. In addition, members reach out to others in the fellowship, practice the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions of S.L.A.A. and seek a relationship with a higher power to counter the destructive consequences of one or more addictive behaviors related to sex addiction, love addiction, dependency on romantic attachments, emotional dependency, and sexual, social and emotional anorexia.

We find a common denominator in our obsessive-compulsive patterns which renders any personal differences of sexual or gender orientation irrelevant.

The Twelve Traditions of S.L.A.A.

Here are the Twelve Traditions of Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous (S.L.A.A.):

  1. Our common welfare should come first; personal recovery depends upon S.L.A.A. unity.

  2. For our group purpose there is but one ultimate authority—a loving God as this Power may be expressed through our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants; they do not govern.

  3. The only requirement for S.L.A.A. membership is the desire to stop living out a pattern of sex and love addiction. Any two or more persons gathering together for mutual aid in recovering from sex and love addiction may call themselves an S.L.A.A. group, provided that as a group they have no other affiliation.

  4. Each group should be autonomous except in matters affecting other groups or S.L.A.A. as a whole.

  5. Each group has but one primary purpose—to carry its message to the sex and love addict who still suffers.

  6. An S.L.A.A. group or S.L.A.A. as a whole ought never to endorse, finance, or lend the S.L.A.A. name to any related facility or outside enterprise, lest problems of money, property, or prestige divert us from our primary purpose.

  7. Every S.L.A.A. group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions.

  8. S.L.A.A. should remain forever nonprofessional, but our service centers may employ special workers.

  9. S.L.A.A. as such ought never to be organized; but we may create service boards or committees directly responsible to those they serve.

  10. S.L.A.A. has no opinion on outside issues; hence the S.L.A.A. name ought never to be drawn into public controversy.

  11. Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than on promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio, TV, film, and other public media. We need guard with special care the anonymity of all fellow S.L.A.A. members.

  12. Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our traditions, ever reminding us to place principles before personalities.

Taken from Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous (Boston 1986), pp. 122-123. Copyright © 1986 The Augustine Fellowship, Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous, Fellowship-Wide Services, Inc., 1550 NE Loop 410, Ste 118, San Antonio, TX 78209, United States. All rights reserved. Published with permission 10531011.
Reprinted for adaptation with permission of Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Inc. The Twelve Traditions of Alcoholics Anonymous follow here. (1) Our common welfare should come first; personal recovery depends upon A.A. unity. (2) For our group purpose there is but one ultimate authority—a loving God as He may express Himself in our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants; they do not govern. (3) The only requirement for A.A. membership is a desire to stop drinking. (4) Each group should be autonomous except in matters affecting other groups or A.A. as a whole. (5) Each group has but one primary purpose—to carry its message to the alcoholic who still suffers. (6) An A.A. group ought never endorse, finance or lend the A.A. name to any related facility or outside enterprise, lest problems of money, property and prestige divert us from our primary purpose. (7) Every A.A. group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions. (8) Alcoholics Anonymous should remain forever nonprofessional, but our service centers may employ special workers. (9) A.A., as such, ought never be organized; but we may create service boards or committees directly responsible to those they serve. (10) Alcoholics Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the A.A. name ought never be drawn into public controversy. (11) Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio and films. (12) Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our traditions, ever reminding us to place principles before personalities. Twelve Traditions Copyright © 1976 A.A. World Services, Inc. All rights reserved. Published with permission 10531011.
The Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions are reprinted and adapted with permission of Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Inc. Permission to reprint and adapt the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions does not mean that A.A. is affiliated with this program. A.A. is a program of recovery from alcoholism only; use of the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions in connection with programs and activities which are patterned after A.A., but which address other problems, does not imply otherwise.

What is Sex and Love Addiction?

We in S.L.A.A. believe that sex and love addiction is a progressive illness which cannot be cured but which, like many illnesses, can be arrested. It may take several forms—including (but not limited to) a compulsive need for sex, extreme dependency on one person (or many), and/or a chronic preoccupation with romance, intrigue or fantasy. An obsessive-compulsive pattern, either sexual or emotional (or both), exists in which relationships or sexual activities have become increasingly destructive to career, family and sense of self-respect. Sex and love addiction, if left unchecked, always gets worse.

However, if we follow a simple program which has proven successful for scores of other men and women with the same illness, we can recover. In S.L.A.A., we learn to accept the reality of having this addiction and surrender any notion that we can control it successfully on the basis of our unaided will. Admitting personal powerlessness over this affliction, we cease our addictive behavior and turn to guidance from a Power greater then ourselves, make restitution for harm done to others, and reconstruct our lives physically, mentally, spiritually, and emotionally.

Taken from the pamphlet ‘Suggestions for Newcomers’. Copyright © 1985 The Augustine Fellowship, Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous, Fellowship-Wide Services, Inc., 1550 NE Loop 410, Ste 118, San Antonio, TX 78209, United States. All rights reserved. Permission for publication pending 10531011.

Ordering S.L.A.A. Literature

The following titles can be ordered directly from S.L.A.A. Intergroup The Netherlands.

Ordering Procedure

  1. Send us an e-mail at This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.with your order, indicating:
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  2. Wait for our confirmation with the total amount of your order (including postage) and a reference number.
  3. Transfer the total amount to ING bank account # 442 47 55 of S.L.A.A. literatuur Nederland, Amsterdam, quoting the reference number.
  4. You will receive your order within 14 days after your payment has arrived.

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