The Twelve Traditions of S.L.A.A.

Here are the Twelve Traditions of Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous (S.L.A.A.):

  1. Our common welfare should come first; personal recovery depends upon S.L.A.A. unity.

  2. For our group purpose there is but one ultimate authority—a loving God as this Power may be expressed through our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants; they do not govern.

  3. The only requirement for S.L.A.A. membership is the desire to stop living out a pattern of sex and love addiction. Any two or more persons gathering together for mutual aid in recovering from sex and love addiction may call themselves an S.L.A.A. group, provided that as a group they have no other affiliation.

  4. Each group should be autonomous except in matters affecting other groups or S.L.A.A. as a whole.

  5. Each group has but one primary purpose—to carry its message to the sex and love addict who still suffers.

  6. An S.L.A.A. group or S.L.A.A. as a whole ought never to endorse, finance, or lend the S.L.A.A. name to any related facility or outside enterprise, lest problems of money, property, or prestige divert us from our primary purpose.

  7. Every S.L.A.A. group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions.

  8. S.L.A.A. should remain forever nonprofessional, but our service centers may employ special workers.

  9. S.L.A.A. as such ought never to be organized; but we may create service boards or committees directly responsible to those they serve.

  10. S.L.A.A. has no opinion on outside issues; hence the S.L.A.A. name ought never to be drawn into public controversy.

  11. Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than on promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio, TV, film, and other public media. We need guard with special care the anonymity of all fellow S.L.A.A. members.

  12. Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our traditions, ever reminding us to place principles before personalities.


Taken from Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous (Boston 1986), pp. 122-123. Copyright © 1986 The Augustine Fellowship, Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous, Fellowship-Wide Services, Inc., 1550 NE Loop 410, Ste 118, San Antonio, TX 78209, United States. All rights reserved. Published with permission 10531011.
Reprinted for adaptation with permission of Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Inc. The Twelve Traditions of Alcoholics Anonymous follow here. (1) Our common welfare should come first; personal recovery depends upon A.A. unity. (2) For our group purpose there is but one ultimate authority—a loving God as He may express Himself in our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants; they do not govern. (3) The only requirement for A.A. membership is a desire to stop drinking. (4) Each group should be autonomous except in matters affecting other groups or A.A. as a whole. (5) Each group has but one primary purpose—to carry its message to the alcoholic who still suffers. (6) An A.A. group ought never endorse, finance or lend the A.A. name to any related facility or outside enterprise, lest problems of money, property and prestige divert us from our primary purpose. (7) Every A.A. group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions. (8) Alcoholics Anonymous should remain forever nonprofessional, but our service centers may employ special workers. (9) A.A., as such, ought never be organized; but we may create service boards or committees directly responsible to those they serve. (10) Alcoholics Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the A.A. name ought never be drawn into public controversy. (11) Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio and films. (12) Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our traditions, ever reminding us to place principles before personalities. Twelve Traditions Copyright © 1976 A.A. World Services, Inc. All rights reserved. Published with permission 10531011.
The Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions are reprinted and adapted with permission of Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Inc. Permission to reprint and adapt the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions does not mean that A.A. is affiliated with this program. A.A. is a program of recovery from alcoholism only; use of the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions in connection with programs and activities which are patterned after A.A., but which address other problems, does not imply otherwise.

What is Sex and Love Addiction?

We in S.L.A.A. believe that sex and love addiction is a progressive illness which cannot be cured but which, like many illnesses, can be arrested. It may take several forms—including (but not limited to) a compulsive need for sex, extreme dependency on one person (or many), and/or a chronic preoccupation with romance, intrigue or fantasy. An obsessive-compulsive pattern, either sexual or emotional (or both), exists in which relationships or sexual activities have become increasingly destructive to career, family and sense of self-respect. Sex and love addiction, if left unchecked, always gets worse.

However, if we follow a simple program which has proven successful for scores of other men and women with the same illness, we can recover. In S.L.A.A., we learn to accept the reality of having this addiction and surrender any notion that we can control it successfully on the basis of our unaided will. Admitting personal powerlessness over this affliction, we cease our addictive behavior and turn to guidance from a Power greater then ourselves, make restitution for harm done to others, and reconstruct our lives physically, mentally, spiritually, and emotionally.


Taken from the pamphlet ‘Suggestions for Newcomers’. Copyright © 1985 The Augustine Fellowship, Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous, Fellowship-Wide Services, Inc., 1550 NE Loop 410, Ste 118, San Antonio, TX 78209, United States. All rights reserved. Permission for publication pending 10531011.

Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous

Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous (S.L.A.A.) is a Twelve Step, Twelve Tradition-oriented fellowship based on the model pioneered by Alcoholics Anonymous.

One of the resources we draw on is our willingness to stop acting out in our own personal bottom line addictive behavior on a daily basis. In addition, members reach out to others in the fellowship, practice the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions of S.L.A.A. and seek a relationship with a higher power to counter the destructive consequences of one or more addictive behaviors related to sex addiction, love addiction, dependency on romantic attachments, emotional dependency, and sexual, social and emotional anorexia.

We find a common denominator in our obsessive-compulsive patterns which renders any personal differences of sexual or gender orientation irrelevant.

 




 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

This website is maintained by S.L.A.A. Intergroup The Netherlands and does not speak for S.L.A.A. as a whole.

Ordering S.L.A.A. Literature

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  4. You will receive your order within 14 days after your payment has arrived.

Links and Addresses

Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous (S.L.A.A.)

  • The Netherlands
    S.L.A.A. Intergroup The Netherlands
    P.O. Box 59539
    1040 LA Amsterdam
    The Netherlands
    Phone: +31 (0)20-489 31 92
    Web: www.slaa-nederland.nl
    E-mail: This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.
    Bank accounts: Postbank Leeuwarden
    NL84 INGB 0009 2275 73 (donations, 7th Tradition, 60/40 Way)
    NL71 INGB 0004 4247 55 (literature)
     

  • Netherlands online
    SLAA_Netherlands Yahoo Group
    Web: health.groups.yahoo.com/group/SLAA_Netherlands

  • International (FWS)
    The Augustine Fellowship,
    Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous
    Fellowship-Wide Services, Inc.
    1550 NE Loop 410, Ste 118
    San Antonio, TX 78209
    United States
    Phone: +1 210-828-7900
    Web: www.slaafws.org
    E-mail: https://slaafws.org/contact
  • International online
    #SLAA Online Group
    Web: www.slaaonline.org
    SLAAsupport
    Web: health.groups.yahoo.com/group/SLAAsupport

  • France
    Dépendants affectifs et sexuels anonymes
    Web: http://dasafrance.free.fr

  • Germany, Austria and Switzerland
    Anonyme Sex- und Liebessüchtige
    Region Germany
    Web: www.slaa.de
    Region Austria and Switzerland
    Web: www.slaa.at

  • Sweden
    Anonyma Sex och Kärleksberoende
    Web: www.slaa.nu

  • Italy
    SLAA Italia (Italian site)
    http://slaarome.weebly.com/(english meetings in Rome)
  • Brasil
    Dependentes de Amor e Sexo Anônimos
    Web: www.slaa.org.br

Alcoholics Anonymous (A.A.)

“Remembering that Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous (S.L.A.A.) is a Twelve Step, Twelve Tradition-oriented fellowship, based on the model pioneered by Alcoholics Anonymous, the A.A. Web Site may be a source for ideas” (Web Site Guideline 9).

Other programs

Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous (S.L.A.A.) neither endorses nor recommends the following organizations; their sites are identified here only to provide individuals with the opportunity to learn about other Twelve Step, Twelve Tradition recovery groups dealing with addiction to sex, love and relationships (see Web Site Guideline 7).

Other “S” and “L” Programs

The Twelve Steps of S.L.A.A.

Here are the Twelve Steps of Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous (S.L.A.A.):

  1. We admitted we were powerless over sex and love addiction—that our lives had become unmanageable.

  2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.

  3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood God.

  4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

  5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.

  6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.

  7. Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings.

  8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.

  9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.

  10. Continued to take personal inventory, and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.

  11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with a Power greater than ourselves, praying only for knowledge of Gods will for us and the power to carry that out.

  12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to sex and love addicts, and to practice these principles in all areas of our lives

 


Taken from Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous (Boston 1986), pp. 67-68. Copyright © 1986 The Augustine Fellowship, Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous, Fellowship-Wide Services, Inc., 1550 NE Loop 410, Ste 118, San Antonio, TX 78209, United States. All rights reserved. Published with permission 10531011.
Reprinted for adaptation with permission of Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Inc. The Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous follow here. (1) We admitted we were powerless over alcohol—that our lives had become unmanageable. (2) Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. (3) Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him. (4) Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. (5) Admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs. (6) Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character. (7) Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings. (8) Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all. (9) Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others. (10) Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it. (11) Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out. (12) Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics, and to practice these principles in all our affairs. Twelve Steps © Copyright 1976 A.A. World Services, Inc. All rights reserved. Published with permission 10531011.
The Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions are reprinted and adapted with permission of Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Inc. Permission to reprint and adapt the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions does not mean that A.A. is affiliated with this program. A.A. is a program of recovery from alcoholism only; use of the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions in connection with programs and activities which are patterned after A.A., but which address other problems, does not imply otherwise.

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